Honestly, I cannot lift it anyways because it is too slippery even without wax (i guess I could try with shorts on instead of jeans or khakis).
That's a matter of the way you hold it, positioning your feet, amount of pressure between your thighs, angle of the drum (first of all). Also, mostly one of your hands will be on the drum, like in a bass or floating hand position; so you can additionally secure it with this hand.
I would rather worry about my clothes. What if you had a gig where you have to dress yourself well? When the evening is over, you will have waxed your trousers, too ...
I even gave up trying to save my drums from scratches and dents. Once they are out of their bags, they are exposed to all kinds of punishment. I don't bring a special drum to play with sticks, so my congas have to take that. Then there are the tuning bolts of the neighboring drums, and there are worn out spots that I can't even imagine where they came from.
Used drums look beautiful. They don't have to shine in my parents' living room.
Thomas